Supporting Children Through a Divorce
30th April, 2025
Divorce is emotionally challenging for all involved, including children. This article outlines how to support children through a divorce.
Going through a divorce can be an emotionally challenging time for families. It can be even harder to manage when children are involved.
It is normal for children to feel upset, angry or worried when they learn their parents are separating, and each child will process this news differently. Some may process their feelings straightaway, whereas it might take more time for others.
Here are some ways to support children during a divorce, from the first conversations to moving forward once parents have separated.
Talking to children
Maintaining honest and open communication with children during a divorce is a crucial part of supporting their navigation of a new normal.
Finding time and space to openly talk to children about the situation in a patient and reassuring manner can minimize tension as they begin to cope with unfamiliar circumstances. As parents separate, children need to familiarise themselves with a new routine, new places and new activities, so open communication can give them the time and support they need to adjust to a huge change in their lives.
Understanding children’s feelings and respecting their emotions
During the initial period of separation and even afterwards, children are going to experience many heightened emotions as they grieve the divorce.
Children may feel sadness about the breakup of their family unit. Reassurance that even though things will change, both parents will still be there for them, can help them process the situation. Feelings of uncertainty are common, and while learning to be flexible is good for children, adjusting is a gradual process, so providing stability and routine as much as possible can be useful.
Allowing children to be honest about their feelings and acknowledging these emotions shows them that vulnerability is a strength, especially at a difficult time.
Reassuring children that the divorce is not their fault
Many children often feel guilt during a divorce and believe they are responsible for their parents’ separation.
Providing children with the reassurance they need to understand they are not responsible must be approached with patience and care. One day they may understand a little more, but they may be unsure the next, so being consistent with reassurance can help them process the change. Giving them the real reason behind the divorce in a child-focused way can help. Reminding children that both parents still love them, even if the family unit they know has changed, is the best reassurance you can offer.
Taking care of yourself
Even though it may seem difficult, looking after yourself during a period of divorce means you can be there for your children.
Seeing friends and family can help you navigate change in your life, so it is important to remember to socialise when you can. Exercising often and eating healthily can make you feel more like yourself, even when it feels tough. Keeping a journal offers a private space to note down any thoughts and feelings to help you process your divorce.
Working on relieving stress can create a more comfortable environment for children, meaning that you can support them through the divorce, whilst also looking after yourself.
Ward Hadaway can support you through a divorce
Ward Hadaway has extensive experience in divorce and family law. Our specialists work closely with clients during difficult times to ensure the best outcome for all parties, all while understanding the situation with empathy, compassion and care.
If you are looking for support through a divorce, our team of divorce solicitors are here to help. Whatever path you choose, Ward Hadaway will ensure you feel supported during this difficult time.
Please note that this briefing is designed to be informative, not advisory and represents our understanding of English law and practice as at the date indicated. We would always recommend that you should seek specific guidance on any particular legal issue.
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