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Top Tips for Divorcing a Narcissist

Divorcing a narcissist can be an emotionally exhausting and difficult journey. It is common for narcissists to engage in manipulative and domineering behaviour, which can complicate proceedings.

If you find yourself in a situation like this, it’s important to seek professional legal help from a divorce solicitor.

In addition, there are some things you can do yourself to make the process as simple as you can. In this blog, we will provide you with useful advice regarding this emotionally taxing situation, as well as highlighting where you can find support.

Our top tips on divorcing a narcissist:

Document everything that you can

Narcissists frequently try to rewrite history and twist facts to fit their narrative. Due to this, it can be helpful for you if you document every interaction, conversation, and incident related to your divorce, to protect yourself.

From a legal perspective, this documentation is also extremely useful for your divorce solicitor while they are building your case.

Establish boundaries

A lack of respect for boundaries is one of the hallmarks of narcissistic behaviour. Try to communicate your boundaries and expectations clearly with your ex-partner, preferably through your divorce solicitor.

This will help prevent unnecessary conflicts and serve as a record of your efforts to maintain civility during the divorce process.

Remain focused on your goals

A spouse that is narcissistic may aim to divert your attention away from your divorce goals, through engaging in emotional manipulation or petty disputes.

If this occurs, its important that you stay focussed on what matters most to you, whether it’s dividing assets fairly, securing custody of children or achieving financial independence. Your divorce solicitor can also assist you in creating a clear plan to achieve your goals.

Make self-care a priority

Divorcing a narcissist can be emotionally taxing. So, throughout the process, it’s crucial you find time for yourself, in order to care for and maintain your mental wellbeing.

Consider seeking therapy or counselling to help cope with any stress or emotional turmoil. Your divorce solicitor may also recommend mediation or other conflict resolution strategies to reduce strain and make the process go as smoothly as possible.

Choose the right divorce solicitor

When divorcing a narcissist, your choice of divorce solicitor is pivotal. It’s crucial that you select a solicitor who specialises in high-conflict divorces, and understands the complexities of dealing with such individuals.

As a full-service law firm, Ward Hadaway draws on expertise from all departments. Taking a holistic approach to our services allows our divorce solicitors to provide comprehensive legal advice to our clients – something that smaller, boutique family-only solicitors cannot.

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